First message dating site advice
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
You’re Interested In Finding Out More About Her: You want to know if she’s as interesting and attractive as she is in her profile. Acknowledge The Obvious: You know damn good and well that you’re the 10,000th person to message her. About You: This is where you introduce/brag about yourself in miniature.
You want her to know that you a) have a life and b) have your shit together.
Personally, I’ve written things like “Pirates Are Much Cooler Than Ninjas” or “Who Ordered The Large Cheese Pizza, Double Anchovies”; anything that comes to mind.
Just about every online dating site out there has some variation on this. Too many people spend too much time focusing on one particular girl at a time, developing an online version of one-itis.
In theory, it is supposed to be a cute and flirty way to tell someone that you’re interested in them, get them to check out your profile and maybe send you a message. They expend time and energy waiting checking her activity dates, wondering if she got that message, if he should send a second one… Approaching women out in the world is like spear-fishing – one at a time.
In one paragraph, describe a little about you that makes special.
You know your way around a camera, you’re an excellent dancer, you play classical guitar, you have awesome tattoos, you make a killer chicken almondine.
A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...