Dating in the 40s
But consider what you’ve gone through to get where you are. You need something more solid to rely on as you build a relationship with someone. When I speak at universities across the country, the biggest complaint I hear from the ladies is how immature guys their age are.Do you really want to keep ignoring a guy’s flaws just to have someone in your life? Mediocre the boot and be alone (and He’s much more interested in your mind. And hey: know that he may have less hair than he did in his 20s, or a beer love handle. They’re only into partying, the women tell me, or one night stands.I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in midlife and beyond.Here are some of their stories of dating after 40; dating that never turned into relationships, this is.She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.She insists he give and give with little or no reciprocity; after all, he’s The Man and she’s his prize!The 18 Year Old The 18-year-old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.
Sure, you’ll meet their immature counterparts, but it’s easier to find a man who is emotionally and mentally on the same page as you once you leave your 20s.
The Princess The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants when she wants. She’s a scorekeeper, and she alone decides when he’s given enough to satisfy her…or when he hasn’t and is history.
The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
I’m often asked whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men dating after 40. But I DO help men by helping women who are dating after 40. )One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
The vast majority of these guys are not the self-centered, testosterone-led, immature boys you met (and maybe married) in your 20s or 30s. )If you’ve read my e Book, 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love after 40, you know that I believe that empathizing with men is essential to your dating and relationship success.
Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.